Counseling Perspective

July 14, 2026 · 2 min read · by Nick Jonsson

Friendship sits at the core of a meaningful life - it’s not just a “nice to have,” it’s essential

Over the years, I’ve done a lot of work on myself, and that has naturally changed how I show up in my friendships. In the past, I might have been more focused on what I could get from relationships. Today, it’s very different. Now, it’s about being of service. It’s about being present, listening deeply, and showing up consistently for the people who matter.

Friendship sits at the core of a meaningful life - it’s not just a “nice to have,” it’s essential

For me, being a good friend means being there not only in the good times, but especially when someone is struggling. It means putting the phone away, giving full attention, and truly hearing what’s being said - and sometimes what’s not being said.

This is something I also bring into my coaching and therapy work. I often ask clients to reflect on their friendships - how healthy they are, where they feel supported, and where things may be broken. Because the truth is, we cannot go through life carrying unresolved friendships. If something is broken, we need to take responsibility, make amends, and do the work to make it right.

There’s powerful research from Dr. Robert Waldinger that shows how critical relationships are to our wellbeing. In fact, a lack of meaningful connection has been compared to smoking 14 cigarettes a day. That’s how serious this is.

So friendship is not just about connection - it’s about health, longevity, and the quality of our lives.

Today, I focus on a small circle of real, authentic relationships. People I can be honest with. People who hold me accountable. People I can support, and who support me in return.

At the end of the day, it’s simple - be the friend you wish you had. Show up. Listen. Care. And when something is broken, have the courage to fix it.

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